Merida · 9 answers · 1y

Is it always the line of attraction clear? I mean, have you ever felt confused about if you feel attracted to someone or not?

Not really. Connection is a strange thing, it's interesting how it aligns with each other person.

I have definitely felt confused with it.

There have been times when someone I wasn’t initially attracted to expressed interest in me and I experienced doubt on whether what I was feeling was attraction or open mindedness ? I don’t know if this makes sense.

Nope. And yeah, particularly when I was younger. You know, they tell you that you're supposed to want to sleep with people you're attracted to and I some(often)times don't/didn't really want to do that.

I’m with Sean on this. If you’re thinking about whether you’re attracted to someone or not: stop; you are already attracted. Does there have to be a reason for the attraction? No. Do you have to find a reason for the attraction? No! Should you back off because they’re not your ‘type’? NO. Sorting people into my type, not my type columns has got to be the stupidest exercise ever. (And people wonder why they’re still single…) Stop thinking. Start doing.

Yes I have. Sometimes my emotions judge differently than my brain. And then there is the physical attraction and sexual attraction too. The four do not always go into the same direction. And then the combo might also change over time. At least for me it's sometimes an explosive mixture of attraction and rejection. Plus insecurity about my own wishes. I think that is a more common experience. People claiming it is all easy sound a bit suspicious to me.

Hello students, looks like it's time for another visit to the Love Academy, where there are no summer breaks because the heat lasts all year, baby 😈🔥 ... The line of attraction is indeed clear when it comes to a straight up yes or no - in fact, my controversial Love Thesis when I was just a student was that if you're confused, then you are attracted - maybe you're confused about why because you normally go for bikers or whatever, but maybe sorta attracted is still attracted - now what can vary is levels of attraction, but you'll have to attend Love Grad School if you want that information

It's not always clear, but that doesn't mean I'm confused. Sometimes I'm just not sure whether I'm attracted to someone or not, it's right on the border. That happened just yesterday or the day before at the dollar store.

No. And yes, I often find it difficult to distinguish whether I just like someone or there's a little more than that, romantically-wise.

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