Arthur asked about 2 months ago

My mom gets really mad whenever someone says "bad" things about me. How do I convince her to stop reacting that way?

Arthur

My mom gets really mad whenever someone says "bad" things about me. How do I convince her to stop reacting that way?

It's hard to change the way people feel/react to things, but maybe you can assure her it doesn't bother you when people say those things because you're secure in your choices and maybe that'll help her not to feel as defensive

Don't stop it. Embrace it. It's nice having someone in your corner. At least she doesn't join In saying bad things about you like my mom did growing up😄😪

Talk about it and rationalise but that isn't foolproof. I suppose just reassure you can handle it

You cannot. As a child ( and we all are children until our parents have died ) you have to cope with parental behaviour like this. Be calm, tolerant and try not re-educate parents. When things are too bad leave them alone in their mood. Do not offer yourself as a litter bin of their emotions, this isn't loving your parents, this is garbage collection. Do not mistake one for the other. Parents have sometimes encroaching habits with their children. They do not mean to be that, but it simply happens. it is your duty to remind them of this civilised fringe of intrusion we all are keen to respect usually. They will not understand [...]

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I might be the worst person on earth to ask about dealing with their mother...ok maybe 2nd worst behind Carrie, but I humbly propose the direct approach - yo moms get the hell up out my koolaid I can handle this (you may want to phrase this more respectfully, or not I am not here to judge)

Why are peoppe saying bad things about you? And how is your mum finding out about it? Why wouldn't she be mad? Why do you want her to stop re acting that way?