Nothing, I'm not part of the pop culture programming that says that relationships must be about mutual control and restriction. That's so babyish. It's all about repressing each other's desires and sexual/sensual/romantic fulfillment for the sake each other's egos. I don't understand why people don't realize this, at least when they read it, for example by Kate or myself, and change their minds about it. I just talk into the wind and everybody goes along with their primitive social programming.