So they mean to say that lesbians are completely and absolutely disgusted by all men, and have to default to women because those are the only two kinds of people we're acknowledging exist, and you're out of options once you discount men? Nah. Do straight women define their heterosexuality by a feeling of total repulsion for their own gender? I doubt many straight women would say "YES" to that, they would say they were attracted to men not repulsed by women on every level and just left with men. And I doubt many people would apply that same "explanation" to straight women. Meanwhile, something has to make you or just leave you queer, people have to explain it away. "Lesbians are just MAN HATERS" is an old one. As if a woman's entire life has to be constructed around men, because they're the center of the universe, so she doesn't exclusively love women she just HATES men. That ain't it.

There are really lesbians who disgust men very, very much. Anything "male" provokes their disgust. Though some of those prefer sort of male social roles and pseudo male behaviour for themselves. It's complicated. But this isn't the whole picture, nor is it a defining feature of lesbians I would say. Some gay guys also behave like absolute women haters and express their disgust loud and obscene. However the behaviour of these groups cannot be generalized as such. I do not feel disgust with regard to men, nor a general avoidance want or such. I have male friends. I feel loved when they hug me as I would when a girl hugs me. Though there is no sexual tension or attraction between me and any male I experienced that was mutual.

There are really lovely human beings among us and it would be madness to reject a person I love only because of gender or body. Though I never felt this or experienced it, I would not categorically rule it out a man and I could have more than just friendship. But I think it is extremely unlikely.