LaDamaX asked Who or what do you credit for your happines…

For happiness is general contentment with my life and who I am now.

For unhappiness, my own negative thought patterns. Getting stuck somewhere in between anxiety and avoidance, somehow in between the two. And it's slow going mentally in that place.

A · 1y

Well, I'm mentally ill, so I get to thinking that emotions are sort of performed for the benefit of others and that it's actually kind of hard to tell when I'm happy or unhappy, I mean really and truly. So I would credit other people for my happiness, because I probably wouldn't actually express it and mark it if they weren't around to interpret it as happiness. And I tend to avoid expressing unhappiness, because I don't see it as valuable to me or others to do that. I know that's wrong, or that it's supposed to be wrong, but it's still a thing my brain is saying.

nefarious yeets · 2y

It's ultimately down to me. But I'm grateful for the people that help bring a smile to my face.

Pandy · 2y

Everyone else but me

cLOUD · 2y

The theocracy I live in plays an important part in rustling my jimmies but at the end of the day, I'm the one who's responsible for the feeling of unhappiness I bring upon myself. I have to stop throwing myself pity parties.

Arman · 2y

I credit my parents for my lifelong misery. People say we shouldn't blame anybody but ourselves, but I think that's not always true. There really are such things as victims and abusers, and there really is such a thing as bad parents making their kids' entire lives miserably through the impressions they make on them during their formative years. And the reason people say you should never blame anybody but yourself is that to think of someone as an unfortunate victim, through no fault of their own, would invoke compassion, and compassion is a burden so who has time for that? Also I think it has to do with our culture of toxic individualism and the ideology that we should all lift ourselves up by our own bootstraps.

inhahe · 2y

last night I met again after years two wonderful ladies and the Spanish lady turned around and asked if I recall her and sure I do and she instantly was happy and it felt as if many many years were bridged instantly as she was so happy to meet me again and I still envy her husband and felt happy that a person was happy to see me again causing a lovely mutual mood.

Kate Matsuda · 2y

Me, myself and I

Merida · 2y

Myself

Burger Queen · 2y

For happiness: artists, entertainers and teachers. For unhappiness, myself.

Arthur · 2y

I don't assign credit or blame, there has to be unhappiness in order for happiness to mean anything, maybe I just got dealt a losing hand, or maybe there is not even anyone dealing

LaDamaX · 11 answers · 2y