Sean ⚡🤖 asked You are happily committed to a long-term pa…

I would be pissed because I probably asked them to tell me about their kinks several times and they said they were super vanilla so I never opened up about my weird shit and there's no trust in the relationship 😡

depends what kind of appalling tho. if it involves kids but isn't illegal on some technicality that's a bigger problem.

Veronique · 4y

(teehee) If I am happily committed, why would porn be a big deal breaker? It's not like I found an album/scrapbook of them married with a bunch of kids on the side... Now that there is a reason to be truly appalled.

🌺 AnayaOhNo · 4y

leave them

kelcey · 4y

We’d definitely talk about it. Not really something I’d consider a marriage-destroying thing.

LaDamaX · 4y

Porn is pretty much entirely for cis people so it all appalls me. Internally, it would hurt me a lil that no one will watch all 600+ episodes of Naruto with me, but they have time to watch literally dozens of videos of people getting their hair shampooed with bugs, but in like, a sex way?? gREAT, so I guess you don't even care about the Waves Mission? What about the gay subtext that Redditors deny is there? You just don't care? But you care about what, stepmom titties? That's outrageous. What else haven't you told me about your feelings? Do you 'relate' to Holden Caulfield? WOW, BIG SURPRISE THERE. But OKAY, I've accepted it and I'm over it now.

Every time I've accidentally uncovered someone's porn I've been very discreet about it. I gtfo instead of further investigating it tho. If someone wants me to know something about their sexuality, something that's important, then I trust them to tell me. If they don't want me to know, then I'm not going to force them to tell me. I'm pretty confident that I don't give off extremely judgmental-disown-a-bitch vibes. So I wouldn't worry too much about there being some kind of issue where I've caused someone to feel like they can't tell me something they absolutely could if they wanted to. I would figure they just like porn secrets. But I would probably ask them again where they stand on watching 600+ Naruto episodes. But tbh I'm going to do that with or without the pornography discovery.

nefarious yeets · 4y

I'd be like, "geez sweetheart, why didn't you tell me you wanted to shove a toothpick up my asshole?"

Teo · 4y

I’d think they had a reason for not wanting to tell me, and move on. If they want to share their kink, that’s fine. If they don’t, that’s also fine. Kinks are such deeply personal things that a lot of people hesitate telling their partners for fear of being looked at in horror, or even being laughed at. Moral of the story: don’t go spying on people, you might not like what you find.

Penelope · 4y

I have a bad habit of snooping so I have encountered this scenario.. More than once.. My take is that unless it involves children, or animals, it's none of my business (or anyone's) what they're secretly into. People rarely act on their strange fetishes anyway.