Daniel · 9 answers · 5y

Why do you (not) want to get married?

I mean, I already did - but that was because of paperwork/legal reasons, to make migration a lot easier for me

I don't feel super strongly about it, but it is a nice affirmation of commitment and usually comes with certain benefits from the state

Sexual marketplace disparity and cultural developments. Basically, if I am to do such a thing it won't be until my prospects are better. For men that usually means 35-40, with a career.

Marriage is based on a lie, the lie that you will know how you'll feel and whom you'll want to be with for the rest of your life. The only constant is change, and romance doesn't work that way. Also it's based on fear; it's basically an agreement that binds two people together so that neither will have to fear the other leaving. But what happens in practice is it kills the romance and many, many people are stuck in unhappy marriages.

Anybody I would have married ain't marrying me. It's some kind of law of inverse proportionality or something

1) Forever alone. 2) I'm not religious. 3) It's expensive. 4) Divorce is always a possibility and doesn't sound fun.

If I did ever get married, I'd prefer a humanist marriage, but they're not yet legally recognised in my country, so it would have to be made official at a registry office.

Something I thought about recently was that, if in the eyes of the Church, premarital sex is a sin and therefore marriage is to be encouraged, then why don't they offer to marry people for free? Is money more important than what they preach?

I'll worry about that when I'm sure it's worthwhile in a relationship.
Currently not seeing any reason nowadays besides romance to get legally married, let alone religiously.

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