Daniel asked Have you ever been sexually harassed?

Nobody would want to do that to me.

Yes, usually it's just that dudebros are really interested in flaming me and humiliating me. I explained one of those incidents in Wasserpistole's "worst/best moment at work" question, but I deleted it because I've processed these things poorly and feel responsible for them and further humiliated when I describe them. But one old incident was when the maintenance guy for my old apartment came to fix my fridge and tried to joke and question me about my genitals before asking me if I would show him my breasts. I don't feel as bad about this one, because I didn't just let it happen and made a complaint to the building.

nefarious yeets · 4y

I had a woman who would always rub my upper thigh when talking to me at work. Made me feel uncomfortable but I only recently realized it could have been sexual harassment.

David · 4y

Where do I start?! The first time was when I was 10 (yes, TEN) and a man cornered me in a shop, took out his penis and tried to get me to touch it. Just let that sink in for a moment.

The last time was a man I didn’t know saying, “I could fuck you wearing those sunglasses.” in a queue in a coffee shop. In the years in between I’ve had: a man run his hand up my thigh telling me the job was mine if I wanted it, but how much did I really want it? at a job interview; been followed along the street at night on more than one occasion; been grabbed by the arm in the street one night (that was a scary one); been followed home and “I was just passing in my car, do you want a lift to work?” three or four times by a man more than 30 years older than me. (I had to get one of the guys I lived with to get rid of him because he wouldn’t take no for an answer.); worked with a man when I was 19-20 and he was 60 that I had to practically peel off me every single day because his hands were all over the place and when I complained I got the stock “oh, that’s just Walter, he’s like that with everyone” answer. I’ve been shown penises I didn’t want to see on a dance floor, on a train, in a park, even in a lift once. I’ve had men’s uninvited hands on my leg more times than I can think of, and had comments made about parts of my body so many times I don’t even know any more. And those are just the ones I remember off the top of my head.

Penelope · 4y

Yea, first time I remember being cat called I was like a teenager or sum shit. I've had a man follow me while I was transferring trains during my morning commute when I was in college. He was like 60 and asked if I wanted dinner because "I have to eat some time."

Teo · 4y

Nah, I've had bosses who wanted to sleep with me, but they weren't nasty or threatening about it and it never bothered me, but then I am a saint and not all can be expected to maintain themselves through such an ordeal 👼🏽

Sean ⚡🤖 · 4y

Not in this life, no.

Wasserpistole · 4y

Harassed? Not really

Pandy · 4y

Unnecessary or unsolicited attention of a sexual nature at work that left me feeling Eeewwww? I think so. Not anything so serious that I would be willing to report, though. I generally take care of things “in house”.

LaDamaX · 4y

Yes. People (men) have tried rubbing themselves on me in crowded trains. I had a professor in college who wanted to have sex with me, but he was a bit on the younger side in all fairness. Also had a boss who "propositioned" me, luckily that creep got fired for doing something similar to someone else.

Alice 💋 · 4y

Twice.

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