Alice 💋 asked Would you ever date a trans person? And (if…

No, I'm attracted to actual females.

AJS · 4y

Would you date me if I were a trans woman?

I tend to fall in love with a person’s mind. Their intelligence, their sense of humour, moral code, conversation skills, bravery, empathy level, their good manners, musical tastes, love of life, hobbies, writing skills, love of animals, their innate sense of style, their general way of thinking, are all far more important to me than the physical stuff. You could be the most beautiful-looking person on the planet but have the ugliest personality of anyone walking the earth. Because true beauty - not how tall/thin/blonde/white-toothed/muscled/clear-skinned/youthful/well-hung someone is - lies within. And in a truly beautiful person, it shines out of them.

Would you miss out on something wonderful because this person doesn’t fit neatly into a box? Because they’re different? Because they’re not physically perfect? (And who the hell is?) Would you let the love of your life pass you by because you’re worried about what people might think? Because it’s something you’ve never done before, or considered before, or even thought about before? Because it breaks the ‘rules’? Because you’re a coward? Because you’re scared?

Loving a person is about so much more than finding the meat sack they currently inhabit instantly appealing. We need to stop mindlessly subscribing to outdated, restrictive, and downright harmful ideas of what constitutes ‘attractive’, what’s ‘normal’, how our lives should be lived. Stop chasing the narrow-minded ideals we’re all so desperate to conform to. It’s ridiculous to write off a person solely because they were once thought to be ‘this’ and now they’re thought to be ‘this’.

And to all these people whose immediate thoughts are about sex. There are A LOT of ways to have amazing sex that don’t involve a penis going into a vagina. Just saying...

Penelope · 4y

If she passes the 'well I'm turned on' test and I really like them as a person dating is certainly possible in theory (not sure I'd care if its gay or not - its not a problem for me to care about). As for the sex, I cannot express how much of a turn off 'sword fighting' (or better chosen words) would be for me. I just don't think it's something I could mentally do (I guess that makes me straight), so perhaps I could admire them. But I just don't think sex would be something I could do.

Pandy · 5y

Total nope

J1smith · 5y

I honestly don’t know. There’s quite a bit to consider. But then again, I used to feel that way about dating in general.

LaDamaX · 5y

nope, maybe there are some advanced
transpersons that i find attractive on first sight, but i cant see myself putting my dick into a fake vagina.

Daniel · 5y

I like the feminine aesthetic and on the level of initial attraction if I'm into her I'm into her. I've seen plenty of trans women who I find hot. But that's all theory. In practice, I've never been in that position so I can't honestly say I would be fully down. Maybe I'd be uncomfortable. I don't really know or care what that makes me, but to your question it's not a firm no I guess. People should be able to fuck whoever they find fuckable and not worry about perception

Sean ⚡🤖 · 5y

Would I ever date _____ person? If the attraction and connection is there, yes. If you're not willing to date a trans person because you think that would "bend" your sexuality in a way you're not comfortable with, then you're probably insecure at the very least.

also, I wonder if people ever stop to think if a particular trans person would ever date THEM... some of y'all transphobes ain't allowed to be picky when not even cis hets wanna date you...

Teo · 5y

So when you see a nice person and want to date that person and that persons likes you too and you date... you do not think about if you are gay or trans or what. Never heard of someone who had anything else but the nice person in mind before and during a date. And when you are trans and or gay the other person will probably get to know that soon or later. Or not.

Kate Matsuda · 5y

Heck no, *shudder*. That's scary af. I'd almost rather date an unmodified male (which I'd also never do) than a trans person. I don't think it's considered gay, since in today's woke culture mutilated males are supposed to be considered females. Not everyone is woke, but even most people who aren't are relatively immature and regard things primarily according to their outer appearances, so wouldn't care that a trans "woman" is actually just a mutilated and otherwise chemically manipulated guy.

Alice 💋 · 11 answers · 5y