Arman asked 3 months ago

What would you do if your SO revealed that she/he was very much into BDSM and kept asking you to hit her/him [to the point of bruising]?

Arman

What would you do if your SO revealed that she/he was very much into BDSM and kept asking you to hit her/him [to the point of bruising]?

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I won't treat her like a punching bag for sure but I'd just maybe increase the power in the spanks or whatever tf we doing

Answered by IAWIA

I wouldn't oblige them. I had one such partner and I was seriously not into that, too weird for me.

i'd keep saying no, and maybe hope that she doesn't go off and find someone who will hit her.

Answered by inhahe

I don't mind slapping spanking someone if I can see they enjoy it.

Answered by Pandy

Nope. I’d go for something light, but never anything that would cause bodily harm.

Answered by LaDamaX

Enter into as binding a notarized agreement as I can, with very explicit terms, to as near as possible protect myself from legal consequences. Then try to do it in as safe and controlled a manner as I can, if that isn't acceptable than no bueno.

I'd beat her good 👍

I can't imagine sexual preferences not coming up before the 3rd date in any situation for me, but I don't mind masochism. in fact it is something that I like. I've never been with someone who takes it to the point of bruising, but I'm wit it. we'll see how

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I would try to be understanding and accepting of it, but I don't think I could get off on giving my SO a black eye. A harsh is slap is the most that I can do for them, but as Kate said, one of the fundamentals of BDSM is to make sure your partner is comfor

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I feel like that's something that will come up way before SO status, but if somehow my girl steps to me after a year or however long and asks me to beat her ass that badly then we're probably better off breaking up - I won't be into it and she'll end up go

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Not sure I could fulfill his needs tbh.

Answered by DUST

That is not the way BDSM works... and that is not how a person who is into BDSM would have a new SO. The whole idea is to communicate it in order to make such a relationship work. And it isn't a beat me or perish thing.

Answered by Kate
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