Arman · 13 answers · 4y

What would you do if your SO confessed that he/she cheated on you?

I'd like an explanation, and we could try to work through it if we'd been together a while, but I don't know if I could eventually 100% move past it

Leave. Then get tested for STDs. I don't fuck around when people put my health at risk. I don't trust easily, and I hold grudges hard.

Nothing, I'm not part of the pop culture programming that says that relationships must be about mutual control and restriction. That's so babyish. It's all about repressing each other's desires and sexual/sensual/romantic fulfillment for the sake each other's egos. I don't understand why people don't realize this, at least when they read it, for example by Kate or myself, and change their minds about it. I just talk into the wind and everybody goes along with their primitive social programming.

I'd ask why, most likely forgive but also likely put the relationship on hold until we figure things out.

I'd be like "wow that was not very cash money of you" and then start dating whoever she cheated on me with

1) Thank them for their honesty. 2) Walk away. Somehow the moment they stepped out of the relationship it was the biggest sign that it was over. No matter what we do to work towards the future the past will always be and knowing they could be so selfish and be with someone else well... It would kill me. *Honesty+Loyalty are the most crucial elements and when either is missing then why even be in that relationship? With so many humans that exist, why give to someone who disregarded your worth in the arms of another?

I'd probably hear them out first because their confessing implies it wasn't deliberately done. But I'm strongly inclined to end the relationship right then and there.

Totally depends on what happened when and with whom. I am in general not possessive and do not demand exclusive ownership of my SO. But I want to know if the mutual bond has eroded away. If it hasn't I'm basically fine.

There was a time that it would have been a 100% GTFO and I'm keeping the cat too, but I've learned how precious human connections are and severing one isn't always the best thing, so it's like 75% GTFO but I'm willing to listen and maaaaaaybe she can keep the cat

No "would" here but rather a "did". No "if" but rather a "when".

I just suffered. She broke up for awhile. It felt not good at all. I was hurt, but that was the way my life has been.

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