First off, this is MORE than okay to ask - I'm actually really honoured that you feel safe and secure enough with me and my space to ask me this question. Please, never stress nor worry about asking me anything - I'm always happy to give my thoughts (and hopefully, something I say will be helpful, or if not, you'll have a place where you know you're heard <3)

Take a deep breath. Coming out can be a big step! It's admitting that true part of yourself (that you know you've had all along) but it can be a little nerve wracking to talk about it with others. A great thing in this situation though, is that you know your friends and parents will be supportive! It's more than okay to be scared, but rest a little piece of your mind in that - yes, you don't know what their direct reaction will be, but you know they'll be supportive at the end of it all. As for your grandparents... unfortunately, they're just a different generation and in most cases, just won't understand. And that's okay! You know who you are, and that's what is important (though I know it can be hard not having their support, but you have so many more people around you who will love and support you through it all).

My best tip is to just breathe. If you're super nervous about it, maybe wait a little more, for a time where you feel a little more confident in sharing the news. Or, it might be better to just 'get it over with' in a sense - share to relieve that anxiety. But it totally depends on you!

Addressing that you're nonbinary will have to be direct. Addressing that you're pan, well... considering that it regards relationships, you can always try to slowly ease it into conversation (let it flow naturally). Eg. if they ask about boyfriends, say 'oh no... no girlfriends either' :) or something along those lines. That's how I eased it into everyone's lives... (tho apparently I give raging gay vibes so idk asfna)

But you being non-binary will definitely be something you'll have to approach directly as there is certainly no way to ease that into conversation. And it might be a little scary! But what are you scared of? It might help to pin point where that fear is directed at, maybe so you can think it over, sit with that anxiety. I think a letter is a really nice, heart felt and gentle idea to introduce it to your family. My older sib wrote they/them on a cake and gave it to them, so there's always more options!

But a letter feels very heart felt and intimate. Of course, saying that youre nonbinary and nothing more would be /easier/ in the moment - but I do worry that it might make things harder for you in the future. Potential partners, for one, and having to introduce them at that date - but mostly, I worry that you'll feel unsupported. As if you're hiding a part of yourself, as if it's some sort of secret. Maybe you could introduce what feels most important to you first - whether that is nonbinary, or pansexual - and then introduce the other at a later date. I personally do think that it is important to get the support you need from your friends and parents - but if you only want to tell them youre non-binary (and you feel comfortable and supported with that decision) then go for it!

There's not really any tips one can give for coming out. I find that it's a very individual-based experience - but I think the most important thing is that you are already aware that your parents and friends are supportive. Nothing is going to change - you have been you the entire time. You've always been the way that you are, and now, you're just introducing that to the world. So, take deep breaths, you can do this. There is no rush, no time limit - do it in your own time.

No matter what happens, you will ALWAYS have a space here. I see you, and I love and accept you just the way that you are. You're perfectly you :) <3 I'm rooting for you! It might seem so scary, and intimidating now but... once you get there, and you get through the moment... maybe you'll look back and realise that it wasn't so scary after all (or maybe it was, but hey, you got through it regardless!). I'm giving you the biggest snuggle that I have to offer. I'll always be here if you need to talk to someone, or just need someone to listen to you 🩷

(Take your time, be kind to yourself and know that I am here for you through it all. 🩷 You've got this! Share what you feel comfortable with sharing <3)