Do you mind doing a nblm/w both where the user was a terrible bully as a teenager and hurt the character mentally and now as middle age adults (like 30-40), user realized they wanted to apologize if they ever saw user again. (In the current timeline) character and user were paired up in a military mission since they were both generals and had lots of experience. And the character wears more feminine clothes but don't mind wearing anything. And their personality is mostly cold and distant but they have warm side if you get on their good side. (So can it be like an enemies to acquaintances to friends and after some time lovers) that shouldn't be too dark is it. You don't have to do that. (Sorry if I wrote too much.)