Anon · 9mo
A friend I have online for years one of the ppl that got me into kpop has been very weird since last year and I’m tired, do you have any advice for me?!
So this person is one of the people I have known online for so long and we talked a lot in dms and private and all and they were normal before but since last year they have been acting so weird
She ults baekhyun but she always a very hardcore ot9; she would ignore fanwars most of the time and mainly very supportive of all the members, but after that mess especially with baekhyun vs sm, she acts like baekhyun solo fan now sometimes even act like an akgae which is very weird to see because she hasn’t been like that at all before
She unfollowed rest of exo members accounts on insta, she unfollowed exo social media accounts & on twitter same thing she unfollowed pretty much everything related to the group and other members and now only follow baekhyun accounts and fan pages for him. She started to say shady things about the other members but in lowkey way and I’m so confused because she is like a complete different person now. I tried to call her out in a non aggressive way and tried to engage with her in conversation so maybe she would idk like explain to me or for me to find explanation to why she is acting that way but there isn’t any except that she acts like an edgy teen now
I don’t feel comfortable following her account anymore & she makes me feel exhausted mentally but I’m still conflicted about unfollowing her because I have known her for years since 2017
That sounds like such an unfortunate situation, anon. I'm sorry <333
My practical advice would be to mute her first. That wouldn't cause any friction because she won't know about it, and it would save you the mental strain of seeing that sort of negativity on your TL all the time. If after muting her for some time, you feel better and do not miss having her around, then you can decide to unfollow her.
I think it's very good of you to have talked to her about it, but sometimes people are too deep in and they refuse to listen, so maybe losing your friendship will make her realize that she's going down a negative path that makes her a tiring person to be around.
It's never worth it to subject yourself to horrible shit on your TL for anybody. I have muted or unfollowed close friends before over this sort of thing, too. It's always sad, but always necessary. Your joy about Exo, or any other fandom that you're in, is way more important than someone else's wank.
I am sorry you've lost a friend, though, anon <333 that's so sad :(
