I credit my parents for my lifelong misery. People say we shouldn't blame anybody but ourselves, but I think that's not always true. There really are such things as victims and abusers, and there really is such a thing as bad parents making their kids' entire lives miserably through the impressions they make on them during their formative years. And the reason people say you should never blame anybody but yourself is that to think of someone as an unfortunate victim, through no fault of their own, would invoke compassion, and compassion is a burden so who has time for that? Also I think it has to do with our culture of toxic individualism and the ideology that we should all lift ourselves up by our own bootstraps.