Hey anon! This is actually a really thought-provoking question. I might get flamed for this but my take on this is basically so y’know when the to? Yeah so pretty much when the do it because personally from the start it is just like the way I like it but it’s not that bad it’s like the best way I can get it yk? But when he does it I just like don’t really like when he gets??? Idk if that makes sense so if you need clarification you can dm me