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Mysterious Attractive Stranger · 7mo

What are your thoughts on polyamory and have you ever tried it?

I've been in poly relationships before that didn't end up well, perhaps because of my age at the time or because the person I was with who was also dating other people was quite toxic. And then I had another experience with an open relationship (only one committed romantic partnership but we were allowed to have sexual/non-committal experiences with other people) which was, honestly, a far more positive experience.

Right now actually since I'm fresh out of a relationship I've been thinking again about how I experience romance which has included some thoughts about how I experience monogamy. I have never cheated on anyone, but I can't lie and say that a big part of the relief from leaving relationships is always "God, now I can flirt with other people again" or "Thank god I'm not limited to only having sex with that one person forever anymore". I think I have some resentment about committing sexually to just one person forever, but on the other hand I like the idea of having that one emotional/romantic partner who I can always go back to.

Right now regarding polyamory I'm not sure, but I do think that I would want to seek out an open relationship again, but also that it probably(?) won't be a dealbreaker if the person wants complete monogamy, if I really really like them and we are really compatible in every other way.

Another thing is that my sexual needs are just very diverse; as a switch I am deeply attractive to both submission and dominance and it's just really hard to find one person who can be both of those things for me.

I also liked sub sharing, that was something I did before when I was in an open relationship with another dom. BDSM polyamory (in its many forms) is probably the most attractive kind of poly/open style relationship to me.

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