Genuinely what's up with THAT guy in your retrospring? The way they try to act "mature" and apologize but then literally deny the fact that they have upset other people, it's literally textbook manipulation. The way they speak and how ready they are to dismiss the feelings of people affected, the only type of people I can imagine saying shit like that are abusers themselves. Maybe I'm nitpicking but I do not get good vibes at all.