Yes I get that, don't worry, I don't presume you're trying to play dense. I think you should first try to figure out where the aro/ace tendencies are stemming from. Is is because you're insecure, don't think anyone would love you so you turn it into a self-protection mechanism of 'I don't feel rom feelings/I don't like sex' or is it something entirely different. It's worth delving deep for the core reason. I personally think these are mental blockers more than anything else + (letter limits uh)