sexually or non...? since your question isn't specific, i'm gonna answer in both ways, okiee!

< turn ons >
non-sexual: being loved and treated the way i want, being considered a lot, and efforts are sexy!
sexually: when he is a sweet gentleman but knows how to heat things up, being praised a lot, good foreplay, dirty talk (degradation not included❌), similar sexual preferences... and ACK, so many tbh !!

< turn offs >
i think when they act the opposite of my turn-ons?? lol. i especially don't like it when they only come when they want me to fulfill their needs, it's pretty obvious. OH, i also get ERRRRMMMM when i know that i'm not the only one, because once i have a partner, i'd only have one and focus on him only. tbh, i get turned off easily so i cant list everything, lol.