great question! a pathetic top can mean a variety of things i’m sure if you asked 5 different people they’d say 5 different things. A pathetic top might be someone who is just a total loser and doesn’t lose the loser quality in bed. It might be someone who is so obsessed with their bottom it’s pathetic. It might mean someone who is pathetically bad at topping but they do it anyway and is that even good for the bottom like are they even having a good time maybe not but they’re doing it. It might mean that there are some dom/sub themes at play or maybe the top loves to be humiliated by the bottom and get called “a pathetic whore” or something in bed. Basically, if the spirit is there then it’s a pathetic top! I’ll also ask the crowd to maybe get some other answers for you!!