hello! don’t worry, i’ve been thinking a lot about your question. and i’ll gladly tell you my experience, when i realized i was a lesbian i still percieved myself as a woman while using she/her pronouns because i was afab; so after i started experimenting with my gender and feeling more comfortable with who i am today, using they/he pronouns, i still find myself comfortable by the term lesbian and on lesbian spaces. gender and sexuality are very personal things, and for me my gender is quite fluid and it might change from day to day. gender doesn’t equal sex. while i use they/he pronouns doesn’t mean i don’t embrace my fem side or that i don’t have a “feminine” name irl. non binary lesbians are real, and i consider myself one- since i dont consider myself a “man” and obviously my girlfriend isn’t one either. i’m not quite the expert here, and i don’t want to say something incorrect or offend anyone, so i guess if you have more questions or would like to access more information i’m here to help! hope i answered some of your doubts 🥰 have a good day !