absolutely ok but - unless you read the views i shared through Naoto in my fics - my attitude may feel like unpopular one.

in a nutshell: i'm all for gender-nonconformism and expressing personality without necessarily giving it any specific label. i admit that people strive for some sort of categorization and sense of belonging to a certain group, but i think that creating dozens of various genders to try fit individuality in a yet another box doesn't make much sense and simply keeps feeding existing gender stereotypes.

i was actually very hung up on gender myself in my late teens/early 20s. the reasons were very common for a girl that age - i didn't feel like i could or wanted to meet the societal expectations from a woman and felt insecure around men. my first two AFAB crushes identified as transmasc and non-binary and i myself saw genderfluid as a fitting label for me for a while. i think it matched my then-regular mood swings from depressed vulnerability to defensive antagonism/rebellion.

what i, personally, arrived to with years though, is that i don't need to fit into a girl box to have she/her pronouns and keep being a woman. i don't need to look masculine to feel more secure and capable - i can achieve this sense of capability with my skills and inner strength. (a-and complete safety is, sadly, a pipe dream for anyone AFAB anyway, haha..). i also don't need to be a guy to like a girl bc that would just make me fearful of something that's not heteronormative. in short, taking on men's social representation made me feel like i was hiding behind the 'male' status, hence boosting its importance and grandness, while diminishing and discarding the already downtrodden 'female' label.

it's just my situation though. different people have different experiences, i can't speak for them, so i don't judge anyone's choice and respect others' pronouns. i also recognize the importance of labels for many people: even if gender is a social construct, i don't see us getting rid of this construct any time soon. people do innately like categorization simply because it simplifies the already difficult process of getting to know & understand other people.

i myself find mbti labels helpful, for instance - they give me a quick and high-level idea of a person's priorities. still, i know that some people tend to mistype themselves even in mid 20s, some people change throughout their lives, and some don't even fit any clear type at all (actually, most of the people i know the closest are the most difficult to type). so, even if there 16 types, none is ever truly a given picture of a personality after all. i don't treat mbti as a recipe or a definite judgement with guidelines but (since i myself more or less fit the stereotype) i feel like it's easier to convey my 'self' through the mbti code. and it's a nice high-level reference at the start of a conversation.

same with gender, i think. as far as our current real society goes, it's more practical and easier for an effeminate man to fully transition to a woman and refer to themselves as 'she/her' rather than keep explaining their complex individuality and situation to every person in every social situation. (something they shouldn't really do but the bureaucracy and the 'explain your weirdness to me'-attitude, unfortunately, exist). ideally though - imo - people shouldn't assume that a person has to like this, work as that, date this, and dress like that - all simply because of their gender. it's too hard to put the entire individuality of any person's inner world in any box, no matter what it's based on and how many of them we create to avoid judgement and find personal comfort. that's why i truly respect the brave and confident people who just dress, behave, and present themselves the way they want and feel - without conforming to the popular expectation and guardrails and without a care about the pronouns other people address them with.

thanks for the question and i hope i conveyed my thoughts clearly and respectfully enough!