uhh honestly i have no good advice;; but, what i can say is to have somewhere- literally ANYWHERE to let out your bpdemons. whether it’s a priv, a google doc, notes app, hell even punching the shit out of a punching bag, do NOT bottle your feelings up because you will take it out on someone who doesnt deserve it. or like, thats for me anyways- most of my problems come from my fp and overthinking things, so its really just best to let your emotions out in a place where your fp cant see them (being an fp is very draining sometimes, esp if they dont have bpd or anything themselves. sometimes its just best to hide those things from them while you try to navigate how to properly handle them) and to try and figure out a system with your fp that sees both of your needs tended to. it’s a balancing act but it is at least somewhat possible. just be careful, and be kind to yourself^ we tend to base our value off of our fp a lot, so please try and keep at least a little bit of love and care for yourself away from your fp even if it’s incredibly difficult. do some research on bpd to understand yourself better too!! awareness even to us who have it is still super important and sometimes it can help towards solutions.

these’re just what’s helped me, they may not help you given how differently personality disorders effect everyone- but i genuinely hope that everything’s okay, and if you ever need to vent to someone who will understand your struggles, i’m always here and my retrospring will always be open. the biggest struggle i find is having a group of support people who understand me and who wont demean me for my bpd and my struggles. i’m so glad i have my priv and people who understand me, and i’d say that’s another important factor to consider. having trusted friends with bpd and other personality disorders to vent to and ask questions to is SO important, so if you have any friends who you know you can reach out to, definitely do so.

like i said this works for me, and it could not work for you so dont take my word as gospel. i’m still navigating my bpd and how to function normally with it so that i dont negatively effect the people around me. i hope everything’s okay anon <3 sending massive amounts of love, we’re in this together ❤️❤️