oough ;A; ivan kinnies in what sense? i’m aroace, so there are a lot of things i see in ivan i don’t necessarily see in myself or struggle with…but i’ll try my best! 🫶🏾🌸

*for reference anything romantic, for me, is coming from a “squish” or purely platonic angle haha.

—communication is key. try your best to communicate with everyone as best as possible. it’s not easy in a lot of cases. maybe even most cases. you’re going to screw up and you’re going to get humiliated but that’s okay. there are lessons to be learned from that. learning how to mess up will enable you to do better in the future.

—practice kindness & assume positive intent. plenty of people are assholes. most people aren’t. i find that going into a situation where i’m like “you know what, this might as well happen” keeps me from tearing out my hair about it. lowering my bar of expectations keeps me from being so agitated when people don’t act in a savory manner towards me (especially irl.)

—find something occupy yourself that keeps you happy and that is self-sufficient. this is a lot easier said than done in a lot of cases. i thrive in online communities where i can yap about my hobbies. however, i also love going out to eat with friends, traveling, reading, and overall doing a lot of things with or without company. i personally do not like feeling reliant on other people to do what i like to do. i’ll even go to the movies by myself lol. and i feel no shame in that!

i don’t really know what else i can offer in terms of advice except for: be yourself, and don’t be afraid of being cringe.

⚠️ suicide mention cw & personal //

something that’s important to know about me is that a good friend of mine attempted suicide when i was 19 and my cousin very recently died jumping from their apartment window. i’m sorry, i know this is very morose, but the biggest thing that i want to impress on anyone who currently feels lost is that i’m very happy you’re here and reading this right now.

life is hard. sometimes taking things day by day is the best we can do! don’t be too hard on yourself, and don’t be too controlling. love what you love. 🌸🥰 something else, someone else, will be there for you in a way you weren’t expecting or maybe even hoping for. it might not be the timeline of your dreams, but that’s okay.

i believe in practicing gratitude every day. my life’s not perfect, but it’s mine, and i love what i do. that’s what it’s all about, you know? 🥹💘✨