anon simp · 2y
my question about bdsm might be silly but how does one gets into a relationship like this? I don't mean a sexual relationship/one night stand but an actually romo relationship. i feel like it must be so tough to find someone who would like the same things ? idk this might seems like a silly question but as much as people seems to like bdsm "adjacent" stuff, i don't think there's that many people who are /actually/ into going further than some spanking.. So how do you approach the topic with a romo partner?
There are a lot of bdsm meetups (also different ones for straights, queer and trans & enbies)! You can at least find friends there if not a romantic partner. And you would be surprised how many normies are actually into some heavy duty stuff! And sometimes people just need a bit of guidance and support to find their bdsm side (people always try for their partners and sometimes those curious instances lead to happy sexual discoveries). For me, I've always been upfront with my romo partners about being into bdsm and if they have been new to it, we have been very, VERY slow. So my advice: be upfront, be patient, and get very good at communication 💪
