Anon · 15d
as a dom, how do you suggest a sub going to their dom to bring up kinks/fantasies? i feel like i keep bringing it up and it’s never what i want exactly…? it feels like my dom is forcing himself to be into it, and i feel awful about it.
Been wanting to answer this but have been busy, and wanted to give a meaningful response. Communication is absolutely key when it comes to kinks. I would suggest thinking about it to yourself, detailing out what a pleasurable experience for you would be like, what you dislike and what you haven’t particularly enjoyed so far. Communicate that you’re not saying it to put your partner down but so that the experience is good for you both. Be sure to share your concerns of him possibly forcing himself into it, and ask about what would make it pleasurable for him, too. If there are things you like that he doesn’t, or that you like & he doesn’t, working out compromise or understanding of those issues will greatly benefit your relationship/dynamic.
