If it protects themselves or people they care about. It can make it confusing but is tolerable to me now. Their history makes a difference too, we may or may not realise it when we're younger but it affects adulthood, such as if we ignore troubles as if they don't exist. It'll manifest still.

That's the good thing about the past year for me, I reached a moment where I had to move forward, there wasn't really a choice but to look to grow with what I had. Even now, I didn't know how I would develop to this point. Kinda sidetracked there 😆