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I have a doubt that stresses me out.
My special someone is openly hornier than me and while I am in fact interested in doing things with them, at the same time I face some problems due to the fact I'm not 100% focused on sex and I can actually stay without doing it for a long time without feeling angry or nervous. Though, I do not refuse to masturbate if my body needs it. So what is it? Am I lying to myself or them? Am I false because I masturbate but I don't think of sex most of the time? Please send help.
Oh, hi! I'm extremely sorry for answering only now but lately I wasn't feeling focused for a similar ask and I was busy between studies and stuff, I'm extremely sorry, adorable anon, to make you wait!!
First of all, you aren't lying to yourself or your partner. Masturbation can be something completely different from sex, you could search masturbation but not sex and vice versa. You could need masturbation because you prefer a self-exploring moments for yourself while an intimate moment with someone could require you more energies. It's totally fine! Don't feel guilty for what your body is asking to you, it's perfectly healthy! So you aren't false, you are just yourself ^^
Here there are other important questions: does your s/o respect and your needs? Do they understand that you prefer masturbation but that this doesn't mean you are less interested with them? Are they respectful? Are they okay with this? If they are fine, then there is no problem! ^^
I'll say this, even if it's personal. I always had a higher libido than my bf and also more need to sex (in our case sexting or sex calls). I used to get angry with my bf when we didn't have sex after a while but now... I understand that I wasn't acting right, especially at being so aggressive and needy. Now I feel less "aggresively horny", but I still jerk off a lot, at least once a day, and when I feel like I need sex I ask to my bf and I feel happy when he wants to do it, otherwise I understand when he isn't in the mood. It really depends, but the important things are boundaries and respect.
So the important thing is your s/o respecting you because there is nothing wrong at having a weaker libido or wanting sex only in rare occasions! Don't feel guilty about yourself, anon!! Sorry for the late reply, but I hope it can help you a bit, I wish you a very wonderful and relaxing day!! ^^
I want to add you in discord but i'm too shyಥ‿ಥ
Don't worry! Don't feel shy! My nickname here is always alegwen714 ^^
I would enjoy a lot talking with you here and, if you want, I can invite you in my Total Drama and Disventure Camp proship server! Also non fans are allowed here, it's perfect for people who just want a friendly and chill place far from antis ^^
Re: First 30/30 in the journey to a master's degree.
Off to a strong start! A sign that your studying pays off. ◉‿◉
And when you get time to play WOTR i think you will enjoy it.
There's a lot of twists and turns in that game!
You could even say... That there's a lot of Paths to find.. ( ͝° ͜ʖ͡°)
And i'm glad your friend found a close knit group to share their things with.
And ohh some Italy trivia! (◕ヮ◕)*:・゚✧
AWWWWWWWWWW!!! Thanks a lot, with all my heart!!!
And, oooooh, very very interesting! Ahahahahahaha! I know there are A LOT of possibilities. I have no idea about my mythic path, but I can say my character is a chaotic evil Scald Damphir, specifically Battle Scion ^^
Created experimenting and see options that seemed more intriguing ^^
I hope the Italian trivia wasn't too niche or silly, but I enjoy talking about Italian culture in a certain sense, I guess I'm a true Italian XDD
AWWWWWWWW!! I'm extremely happy for them too, I enjoy A LOT being in that knit group!!! ^^
Hope you'll have an extremely sweet and exciting day, my anon!! ^^
Ale, a woman of culture: ༼ つ ・ω・ ༽つ ★ *:・゚✧
Ohh, Pathfinder art!
I haven't seen much of anything in terms of fan art from that game.
And what a cool piece of art!
A nice surprise for sure!
Thank you for sharing it with us. ❤
And happy new year! ※(^o^)/※
Hi, extremely adorable anon!!!
Sorry for answering only now, I was very busy in the last weeks preparing an exam, that one I talked about and today I did it... and I got 30/30!!!!! My first 30/30 in Master Degree Uni, YES!!!!!!
I'm extremely glad you think I'm a woman of culture! I like feeling, well, being cultured, intelligent, I think it's a very nice sensation, I love knowing more, I love certain pieces of literature, I love Art... you know, you know...
Ooooh! Yeah, that game is niche but it has its fanarts, especially on Tumblr, even if on Tumblr the fandom is made by normies or antis or people that would exclude someone for being proship. Sadly it happened to the extremely dear friend I gifted that drawing, so they prefer talk about their blorbos only in a very small group of friends and their Tumblr blog at max, more or less.
I'm extremely glad Reign enjoyed that artworks soooo much!!!! Even if I don't know much about WOTR, they gifted me the game and I can't wait to find the time and focus to play it!!!
Also, I LOOOOVE all their ideas regarding Areelu, her kid, the Commander, Daeran, they have such a great and extremely creative mind! I hope that someone got curious about their headcanons a bit ^^
Seriusly, I should really play that game, I created a new whole OC just for it!
Btw, AWWWWWWWWWW!!! I'm extremely glad you enjoy that drawing!!! If you want to see more about Reign's headcanons and blorbos, you can check their Twitter @derangedreign and their Tumblr @rangedreign ^^
Also, the artist made an EXTREMELY EXTREMELY GOOD AND AMAZING JOB!!!! I COULDN'T BE HAPPER WITH THE RESULT!!!!
Also, happy New Year, Happy Epiphany and happy holidays also to you, even if they finished!
Also, because today it's 8th January, Happy Ascanio Day! Remember to let him enter, he doesn't eat his heart out ^^
(if you don't understand, don't worry, it's an Italian meme about someone trying to find Italian words in an Iranian song called Pariya, it's a very famous meme in Italy ^^
Re: Lactose intollerance test.
I hope it goes well!
And regardless, once you've overcome it.
You'll have all that yummy christmas food to look forward to! ※\ʕ♥ᴥ♥ʔ/※
And depending on when you read this, i wish you a merry christmas! <(^_^)>
Ahahahahahah! Yup, now I can finally eat as I want! XDD
I did the test and I already got the results and... I'm lactose intollerant! What a surprise... XDD
I'll get the certificate in a few days, so I won't have problems anymore in my dorm cafeteria ^^
Now I just have to focus on my exam... despite being on Christmas period, eeeh, I hope to manage to XDD
Still, too soon for Christmas, but in a few hours it will be Christmas Eve for me, so... Merry Christmas Eve and Merry Christmas to you, I hope they will be extremely sweet, exciting and happy!!!
Re: another exam - Greek tragedy:
I'm glad to hear that the subject matter is of something that you enjoy!
And don't be sad! It may take a while, but you will get there eventually! ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっ ❤
And thank you for your well wishes. It's christmas soon, and i'm happy. ( ´◔ ω◔`)
AWWWWWWWWWWW!!! As always, yoy are very very sweet!!!
I don't have much to say. Today I feel very tense and nervous because tomorrow, or at this point in a few hours, I'll do a lactose intollerance test, the breath test. I had to follow a very rigid diet and tomorrow I can't even have breakfast and, considering they'll give me PURE LACTOSE, I'll feel very very sick ^^;
But I need to do this test for the cafeteria of my dorm... let's hope I won't feel too bad ^^;
Sorry for the sad note, but... eeeh, this makes me nervous ^^; XD
Re: Passed the first exam in new Uni.
Ale the professional! ༼ ▀̿̿ل͜▀̿ ̿༽
Your hard work pays off i see.
But i never doubted you wouldn't! (Succeed.) ٩(^‿^)۶
AWWWWWWWWWW!!! Thank you sooooo much, extremely adorable anon, I'm always extremely happy to see you being happy for me!!!! ^^
Now I'm preparing for another exam that I'll have on 8th January and that is about a specific Greek tragedy, The Bacchae by Euripides, and its influences in movies and books during 1900s. I LOOOOVE Greek literature, so I'm loving the subject of this exam, even if I'm struggling to focus...
Then on February I'll give another exam and... Ooooh, I hope I'll be able to properly organize ^^
I admit I feel sad because I'm very very slow with drawings, my OC Sambukè's ref is taking AGES and it's soooo frustrating...
Btw, I hope you are having an extremely amazing and beautiful day!! ^^
oh cool, thanks for your answer. yeah i think it's common for het boys to enjoy their gf with other girls. have you ever thought about the other way around though, with him being ntr'ed by you with other people? i used to think about both ways with my ex
Oooooh! Didn't expect the sequel of this question! Interesting, interesting...
As I said in the previous ntr themed ask, for me it's harder imagining a similar situation with myself and others because... I'm not attracted to others, I'm strictly demisexual, but if my bf was attracted to some specific girls I would accept to have fun with them, or at least this is what we do in our ERP/sexual fantasies scenarios. The idea of doing something without him knowing or without organizing it doesn't appeal me. Also I would have NO ABSOLUTE INTEREST in seeing myself with other boys.
In a certain sense I prefer being the "cuck", it's more exciting, even if, as I explained, this is always in the context of cuckqueaning, so no humiliation, just seeing my bf being very very happy with someone else and then being happy with me too...
So... cuckolding is good for me if it's about me, my bf's waifus and he enjoying it because on my own I would have no interest in being in someone else. The max I could think about is how I feel attracted also to Fiore to, but that is a thing that is strictly personal, I don't want my bf involved and he doesn't want to be involved, so it isn't exactly cuckolding but "me having fun imagining myself being intimate with a bratty loli in a strictly personal scenario, with no other implications" XDD
It's nice to see that you are still able to make time for each other, even though you both are busy! (Your bf and you.)
ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっ❤
AWWWWWWWWWWW!!! I needed to hear such a nice reply, thanks a lot!!! ^^
Ooooh, yeah, we are very busy, but we love each other very much and... lately my bf is feeling EVEN more sad sadly, his mom is ill and the job is EXTREMELY stressful, so his self-esteem is very low, but I try to comfort him, making him feel loved and proud of himself because he should be very proud of himself! And he's there for me when I'm sad too... I wish I could make him feel less stressed, it's sad seeing how much his job is stressing him out..
Btw, I hope you are living a very very very nice moment, adorable anon, you deserve it!! ^^
What do you think about ntr fetishes/kinks in relationships?
Oh, hi, adorable anon! Sorry for replying only now ^^;
Btw, oooooh, yes!! A kink question!!!
Ntr, huh?
Ok, I'll be honest. I kinda have a netorare fetish. Or better, it's more a cuckqueaning fetish. I get very horny at the idea of my bf having sex with other girls. I don't know if I would enjoy it IRL, but I LOVE when he pretends to have sex with other girls, like his waifu, and him having fun with them in front of me or without me... I don't know, I feel soooo happy!! I see him being very happy and I feel very happy too!! I feel a huge joy when he talk about how attractive they are, how he loves them... I don't know, it makes me incredibly wet and horny XDD
Also I admit I like the idea of having fun alone with his waifus or girls, even if I'm not attracted to them, because I know it would make my bf horny... I repeat, I don't know if I or we could handle it with actual people, but as a fantasy between us is soooo much fun!!
So... I think ntr kinks are totally fine in relationships! If it involves real people, it's always better talking with the partner previously of course ^^
Even if they like being cheated on, I think it's still important to warn the partner, as a sign of trust and communication ^^
So, yeah, totally fine with them! Have fun!! ^^
Re:re:re: graduation.
See! I told you you would do fine!
And look at you!
You did it even better still! ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっ ᕦ ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ ᕤ
AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!! Sorry for the sooooo late reply, but I'm very happy to get this message!!! Awwwwwwwwww!! You are extremely extremely sweet, as cute as your emojis!! And I totally agree with you!! ^^
Now I think I finished all the things I should do to be officially subscribed to my Master Degree Uni, so now I just have to attend lessons and give exams, let's hope the Master Degree Uni will be a wonderful journey too!!! ^^
Re:re graduation.
I forgot to say that the description of your graduation dress sounds wonderful!
I can picture the clothes in my mind. And in my head/imagination it looks good. ◠‿◠
I'm excited for you! ※(^o^)/※
As for your thesis speech if you get nervous, just remember so is everyone else! (• ◡•)
I'm sure you will do fine.
AWWWWWWWWWWWW!!! Thanks a lot!!
Maybe if I'm able too I can show some photos! I mean, Baraag doesn't allow real photos, but I can still use my Sta.sh, otherwise... well, I will still do them and at least my friends, people that know me on Discord will see them!!
And, AWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!
And, you are right!!! I know they probably already know what my final mark is, but I still want to do a good impression! Currently I kinda finished writing my speech but it's too long, so I have to cut some stuff but I have to see what I can cut...
Still, can't wait for Wednesday!!!!
And, thank you sooooo much, extremely adorable cute anon!!! ^^
Your aunt passing:
Oh no! ( ✜︵✜ )
I'm sorry for your loss! ༼ ༎ຶ ﹏ ༎ຶ ༽
Hopefully your family can still gather, albeit under different circumstances. (In remembering your aunt.)
Are you going to the funeral? † ✿ڿڰۣ—
Do you have appropriate clothing for it or will you have to get some?
I'm sorry if me bringing it up is insensitive. I just don't want you to have to stress about it last minute, with you having all the university stuff on your shoulders as well. ꒰ ꒡⌓꒡꒱
And i'm doing okay. Thank you for asking. ❤
Hi, adorable anon! Sorry for replying only now, I have busy days...
I didn't went to the funeral, I usually don't go to funerals, they are too stressing and too... how to say... for me it was enough seeing my aunt's dead body the night before the funeral for the "funeral wake", how it's called... I cried a lot and... it's still... something so... sigh... it's hard metabolizing all this...
Today I returned to my home today after I got back to the dormitory the day when the funeral happened.
Don't worry, I don't think you are insensitive! I just prefer... not talking much about it... now I need to think about my thesis speech and my graduation... very tense for wednesday... eeeeh... we won't celebrate but maybe we'll still do something, I don't know...
Btw, I'm glad you are fine, extremely sweet anon! You truly deserve it!!! ^^
Re: Date of graduation.
Do you know what you will be wearing? And will there be a fancy dinner to celebrate?
( ´◔ ω◔`)
Oooooohh!! Hi, adorable anon!!!
Sorry for the delay, I had very rough days... my aunt died, it was all sudden, I had to go back to my home and today I returned to my dorm... but in a few days I'll return to my house to prepare for my graduation, but I feel SOOOO tired and tomorrow I have lessons...
Btw, yes!!! I know what I'll wear! A bordeaux tailleur with a black top full of colored decorations, i can't wait to wear it!!!
Sadly because of my aunt's death we won't celebrate, at least not in recent days and... I admit I couldn't wait to celebrate together with my all family, also because only my parents and my little sisters we'll see me graduating... sigh... I admit I feel extremely shitty...
I hope you are having way better days then me because you deserve them!! Sorry for me being all sad and tired, I... sigh... I feel so drained, of emotions and energies...
You're my fav oomf!!!! You're so cool, ilysm! /P
AWWWWWWWWWWWW!!! Thank you soooo much, extremely dorable anon!!
It's... AWWWWWWWW!! So sweet to know!! Being seen as someone cool by others, wow... I would have never thought that! I see myself as kinda pathetic, so... it surprised me, but it's extremely sweet to know! Thank you soooo deply for thinking that and for your kindness!!!! ^^
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