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Claire Tonka 🔞 · 5 answers · 23d

Do certain people find you annoying, and why?

Uuuughhh, I got so many people blocking me, hating me, not wanting to talk me again...
I try to be a good person, but I managed to lose a lot of "friendships", even if those "friends" would reveal to not be good people, or at least not people that were making me feel good/better.
I got accused to be a "bitch that creates too much drama" (never forgetting such words), I got accused to be annoying, strange... I think me being so autistic (even if I don't have a diagnosis) created to me a lot of problems, both online and IRL, because I can't stand social clues. Also I prefer to be very honest, even if, I'm gonne admit, such honest could turn into being a bit... rude/a dick head, even if I try to be as kind and supportive as possible. But if I see someone saying an opinion I don't agree with, I like saying why I don't agree, always trying to be respectful, but sometimes I can feel a bit angry and so maybe when I write a reply you could feel that I don't like what you said or I'm not liking you, maybe, using an Italian expression, "mi stai altamente sul cazzo." But this is me overthinking, but if I don't like a person, I could... struggle to contain my disagreement. Basically I can be... strangely confrontational, even if I learned to be more diplomatic in these years, not entering in useless conflicts in most cases.
Also I'm a HUUUGE crybaby and a bit of a drama queen, even if I worked and I'm working a lot to myself to not be just a sad being that can only think about not positive thoughts about myself. I actually learned to like, love myself and I want to show my positiviness to others! But I had moments where people thought I was annoying because I was a person that would make you feel depressed with her depression. Also I used to be very clingy towards my bf because of my abandonment issues and my anxious attachment, but I learned to have a more healthy attitude and to spend time on my own doing my things. I also learned to handle my emotions better, even if I can still struggle, but I feel like I improved a lot! When a big fight happens I don't try to use extreme methods like having suicidal thoughts or bad thoughts in general, I just take time to inspire, expire, handle my emotions and be clear, making myself be respected but also respecting the other. Sadly I made people suffer because of such problems in the past and I don't want it to happen.

I think that now people would think I'm annoying for certain thoughts I have about specific topics (pro-ship, pro-para, pro-Ai and certain controversial opinions I have in general), for how I can be stubborn, for how much I can be TOO emotional sometimes and... I think I can be annoying especially for my lack of understanding social cues, when it's the right moment to stop, when it's appropriate to say or not say something and in general my struggles to understand social situations. I'm still working on them.
Maybe I'm just annoying because I'm annoying or maybe I'm annoying for reasons I'm not having in mind right now, who wants can answer, I don't mind ^^

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