I didn’t watch the video, but I think whatever rules you want to set up, you must be willing to follow through. And if there are no rules, you should be prepared to accept all and any consequences. I know for my own sanity, I need rules for my child. But I try to set up most rules based on safety. I’m not ok with him throwing things in the house, but I’m ok with him being loud. And then there are rules that make my life easier. Like, no writing on the walls. I ain’t cleaning that shit!!