Secret Friend · 5d
The omakase date fr broke my brain. Like I tried so hard to create a lighthearted just bros way to explain it to myself but i couldnt find one! Even if i ignored the past 10 YEARS of context, I would have had to ignore the three months of “jc divorce” and “hyungwon love triangle” aspect. (Scoups was online being subliminally petty which ofc could mean nothing). But the context leading up to the date itself of flirting on insta and seungcheol crashing joshuas live to be all excited about it was too much. 😵💫😵💫😵💫 and theyve been moving like theyre in love ever since. I just feel like if i saw anybody else in any other context move like this i would assume theyre dating! I want to hear the other side of it so bad b/c i feel like i need a reality check sometimes
L O L, okay, first of all! This is all valid, because I GET it. I really, really do. You can go and find my tweets about it and I'll sound thoroughly unhinged about it.
But actually it's quite easy for me to create a lighthearted explanation for a fancy dinner date with a BFF, because it's something my best friend and I do, and have done. I will say it's not something I have tended to do with friends that I don't have a particularly strong connection with, but the friend I'm talking about I've known for 25 years, we've lived together, traveled together, been phenomenally drunk and then hungover together, attended funerals together, we have worked together at three different companies.
Amusingly, there was definitely a time in which I think people assumed we would start dating as we are both bisexual, but that just wasn't the nature of our relationship. We are both happily married to other people, and I think of her as a sister I'm quite lucky to have found. As we got older, lived apart, had different jobs, etc, we would plan a fancy dinner together, coincidentally often at the end of the year! We'd spend big money! There'd be candlelight! We'd wear fancy dresses! The whole nine yards!
In western society this is definitely I think something more common among female friendships, and I'll admit my blind spot to how wealthy best friends in SK spend their money but Jeonghan and Cheol have known each other for 10 years, have been through incredibly difficult and strained times together, and rely on each other a lot. So yeah. They in my mind it's like, "yep. Fancy date night with your best friend and not a significant other because sometimes you need a Friend Date Night." And Jeonghan is beautiful so if he takes a cunty selfie with an exposed clavicle it looks like he's trying to seduce Cheol and the whole world. And they share the pic because they are working idols and they're actively in the yaoi mines.
At the SAME time, my best friend and I did tend to put less effort into seeing each other in such fancy digs when we saw each other regularly (when living together or working together). So the first omakase date does kind of stick out a bit more (while the November fancy date is more like 'oh yeah of course').
(At the SAME SAME time we didn't have to deal with stalkers.)
(And finally at the SAME SAME SAME time, they're beautiful and I think they should be in love.)
