I can assure you that this is not a defining difference. The difference is between a photo and reality. I look normal behind a camera and I look normal in front of it, but on a photo it is a composed fiction.
There are people who find my fiction boring and meaningless, which is pretty much ok with me. What I want to express is sometimes beyond the limit of convention. And people sometimes find crossing that line disgusting or tasteless or adorable. And if you find me attractive you must never forget that my photo is a well orchestrated attempt of creating a bit of a dream, an expression. And that takes over perception and an individual perception consists always of a personally added part that comes from the beholder.