Do I have a choice? I mean, c'mon if somebody feels attracted to anybody can you switch the feeling off at will? No. Can I switch off such an attraction at will? No. I would not blame anybody for being attracted to whoever. Usually the sexual attraction gets reduced or vaporised in total when you encounter the character of your desired person. I felt a hot attraction for a person who I knew only less than a shallow acquaintance until I had a chance to talk to that person and the experience of 'poof' the inflated attraction fell flat to the ground. I might not feel ok about being an object of attraction but I cannot stop the rain either.