Well I once tried to support a young artist with equipment and she was a bit shy to accept it but everybody thought I used this as a reason to dig on her and go after her with creepy flirtation. And it made me feel creepy. The judgement of other, as wrong as it can be, as baseless and as stupid, it tends to affect us nevertheless. And even IF I really had been after her, is it their right to judge this, to intervene and to condemn me and her and such?