My own anger is something that scares me and I try to rationalize away or talk myself down from. When was the last time you felt true anger/contempt?
Anger doesn't really move me like that, I get angry but it kinda fizzles pretty fast...I've had relationships where I won't be as visibly mad at something as they think I should be, and they then get mad at me for that, like it's some kind of character flaw