ik people keep calling pol a narc but in the most respectful non stigmatizing way possible this is exactly what untreated bpd does to someone. imo he fits the bill for that more than narcissism because it’s less of a feeling like he’s above everyone else around him and more so using the people around him for emotional bank. i was diagnosed borderline when i was like 16 and i’ve been in dbt for years to the point where i stopped meeting criteria. his behavior reminds me of how i used to be an eeery amount :p the difference is i was a child. he’s a full grown man. at some point you have to start taking accountability. i wholeheartedly do believe abuse went on in his life at one point (let’s face it he wouldn’t be this fucked up otheriwse 💀) BUT at some point you have to heal get up and get help. he is such a turbulent and destructive person. glad i stopped dishing him sympathy

srry for the rambles lol