Anon · 10d
“you’re not a real _____ fan if you don’t like incest!! 🫵🏼” and it’s just us interpreting/twisting moments or pieces of info to our liking. like it’s all hcs at the end of the day, why are we projecting and shaming other fans just bcus it’s not their thing? it’s bad enough we get bold ass antis that come to our side to start shit for NO reason so it looks no better when we have fellow proshippers being rude on here over fiction too. as you said, to let ship is to also understand if others don’t want to. let’s respect each others dnis and limits or lack thereof. it hurts nobody irl or our favorite characters and ships.
I agree completely. I would even say that people who do that aren't proship, since it isn't about liking incest or other problematic ships, but about being against harassment over fiction.
People can read as much incest as they like, but if they go after other people over ship preferences, they are antis. Antis who like incest, but still antis. Just as people can be proship and only read/write/draw super wholesome things, you can like noncon, huge age gaps, and torture fics and be an anti.
There's a difference between saying "I like/prefer this ship/dynamic because of these reasons..." or "I don't like this because X reason", and saying "Everyone who ships/doesn't ship this/ships them this way are [insert insult]".
The first two examples might irritate people and can come off as rude/bad fandom etiquette if made in the wrong place at the wrong time, but they say nothing about people of the opposite opinion.
The third example is prescribing people personal traits/qualities over fiction, which is (say it with me) - ✨anti behavior✨
Jokey tone aside, people who call themselves proship don't always understand that they are acting in opposition to it. I do hope they will stop once the shoe drops, though! It's never too late to learn and grow as a person, and if they are part of the proship community, they should at least resonate with its purpose.
Disclaimer, I guess; I'm talking about openly announcing opinions on other shippers or pushing personal opinions on them after they have already voiced their stance. I'm not talking about goofing off with friends/in a group chat where everyone is as baffled by some shipping/fandom phenomena. Have fun and let those emotions and opinions out - letting off steam is good, and no one should be expected to act perfectly all the time - but if you're about to call a whole group of people idiots, or liars, or accuse them of being immoral on the timeline because they like a different top/bottom dynamic than you, perhaps consider if that aligns with the philosophy you claim to stand behind before you hit post.
Another disclaimer, heh; None of this is aimed at Anon - you seem to get it, I just went off on a tangent 😆💗
