They are a child (let them be a child) .Now - young adult- Different story (I wouldn't ask them why they didn't want to go but instead- What were their plans for life?) In what direction were they going and ultimately how they were planning to survive in thrive. (They deserve the freedom to fail and learn to grow as an individual) I do not own their life. I just hope they think wisely with each choice they must deal with the consequence.