Anonymous Sender · 8mo
Guess I could take that as a compliment? Cause actually, I'm not good, I just tried to learn it. I'm not a psychology major, but I enjoy observing and studying humans, including their behavior, including myself. Humans are complex creatures. I experience many phenomena that I can't explain, so I try to find out what it is. I look for answers, I want to untangle the tangled threads in my head. I want to know why and what I'm like, what I need to fix, how I should react. I try to know myself more and more every day. I think it has an effect on how I interact with others, such as listening and empathizing more than judging. And no, I don't think you're confusing. I've met a lot of people like you in the past. In the end, affection and connection are the needs of every human being. We are all social creatures, aren't we? It's just that, some things make it a lot more complicated than it needs to be, giving rise to behaviors that distance us from what we really want cause we want to protect ourselves from getting hurt again. Have you ever considered doing FWA? I think it's a pretty safe choice for now.
There’s a theory (I forget the name) said that people’s action or decision is driven by 3 (three) “realms” of mind: conscious, subconscious, and unconscious. Conscious is when you’re fully aware of it (e.g. speaking to someone), subconscious is when you’re half-aware (e.g. your reaction towards a certain condition), while unconscious is when you’re fully NOT aware of it (e.g. me having a disorganized attachment style). Those three “realms” of mind are astute to explain why human is so complex. One same treatment and environment can “produce” two or many different reaction, so, I avoid myself from generalizing people based on their astrology, MBTI, etc. I lean more towards more specific personality identification such as attachment styles. We all have to agree that being a therapist is indeed draining to sort people’s complicated behaviors out. So, good luck for you, Anon. I hope the more you know people, the less judgemental you are. ☺️
FWA? I’m confident to say I’ve gotten more than enough affection, so I’m not really into FWA/FWB. No matter how firm the boundaries, don’t they (who do FWA/FWB) use feeling too when they do their business—even if the feeling is just a glimpse? My life is already full of uncertainty, I’m not going to add one more uncertainty by doing FWA/FWB. However, I still thank you for recommending me to do that!
