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What is the worst thing about your country?
An average person knows 20.000-35.000 words. My brain knows 40.000, but it’s still too few to explain the worst thing about this country.
Udah coba untuk nonton film yang sedih sedih banget belum? [https://twitter.com/Waatergate/status/1761845181014524179?t=rzu-t2mtCz9EhqmSMeilaw&s=19]
Saya rasa saya emang bukan pribadi yang gampang nangis mau keadaannya semenyakitkan gimana pun.
Btw, maaf ya baru sempat balas sekarang.
Berapakah kapasitas otakmu sebenarnya? 😲
Kok kamu mikir saya secerdas itu? Wong saya cuma pakai ChatGPT. 🥰
Kk cepat kasih tau snack favorit kk
Apa pun yang gak ada manis-manisnya. Biskuit pun belinya cuma yang basic banget kayak Regal. Kebetulan sekarang lagi ngurangin konsumsi gula, kalau beli minuman pun request slight sugar.
Takut cuci darah padahal umur baru 24.
Kk OLIP! CEPAT kasih tau AKU menu di nasi padang kebanggaanmu di piring itu yummm :D
Mending lu makan masakan gue, Dys.
Cheesecake or chocolate cake?
Cheese cake. Are you throwing this question because you’re going to send me a cake on my birthday?
Kak… materi yang kamu tulis vibes-bya kayak anak psikologi…. Oh, iya, aku semoat baca juga KAKAKNYA JAGO MICROSOFT EXCEL sedangkan aku sangat gaptek… ini serius minta tolong, apa boleh aku belajar excel dari kakaknya…?
Masa sih? Kemarin dikira anak ilmu ekonomi, terus dikira anak FISIPOL, terus dikira anak rohis, terus sekarang dibilang kayak anak psikologi. Jadi krisis identitas deh. 🧍🏻
Perihal Excel, ini jujur aja ya, saya tuh nggak jago Excel. Pertama kali belajar (lagi) tuh ya pas bikin inovasi itu aja. Belajarnya gimana? Dengan cari tutorial pake bahasa Inggris di Google sama Youtube. 👍🏻
Guess I could take that as a compliment? Cause actually, I'm not good, I just tried to learn it. I'm not a psychology major, but I enjoy observing and studying humans, including their behavior, including myself. Humans are complex creatures. I experience many phenomena that I can't explain, so I try to find out what it is. I look for answers, I want to untangle the tangled threads in my head. I want to know why and what I'm like, what I need to fix, how I should react. I try to know myself more and more every day. I think it has an effect on how I interact with others, such as listening and empathizing more than judging. And no, I don't think you're confusing. I've met a lot of people like you in the past. In the end, affection and connection are the needs of every human being. We are all social creatures, aren't we? It's just that, some things make it a lot more complicated than it needs to be, giving rise to behaviors that distance us from what we really want cause we want to protect ourselves from getting hurt again. Have you ever considered doing FWA? I think it's a pretty safe choice for now.
There’s a theory (I forget the name) said that people’s action or decision is driven by 3 (three) “realms” of mind: conscious, subconscious, and unconscious. Conscious is when you’re fully aware of it (e.g. speaking to someone), subconscious is when you’re half-aware (e.g. your reaction towards a certain condition), while unconscious is when you’re fully NOT aware of it (e.g. me having a disorganized attachment style). Those three “realms” of mind are astute to explain why human is so complex. One same treatment and environment can “produce” two or many different reaction, so, I avoid myself from generalizing people based on their astrology, MBTI, etc. I lean more towards more specific personality identification such as attachment styles. We all have to agree that being a therapist is indeed draining to sort people’s complicated behaviors out. So, good luck for you, Anon. I hope the more you know people, the less judgemental you are. ☺️
FWA? I’m confident to say I’ve gotten more than enough affection, so I’m not really into FWA/FWB. No matter how firm the boundaries, don’t they (who do FWA/FWB) use feeling too when they do their business—even if the feeling is just a glimpse? My life is already full of uncertainty, I’m not going to add one more uncertainty by doing FWA/FWB. However, I still thank you for recommending me to do that!
It seems like your attachment style has answered your confusion about your push and pull tendencies to the people who came after that “devastating moment”. Don't you think so, buddy?
Tell me, how are you so good at analyzing my feelings?
Yes, you’re correct. I’m longing for intimacy so bad, but I’m also a weak fighter. My past relationships (plus how I perceive my own parents’ marriage) were draining to the point I’m now easy to lose the war. It’s barely “the first crack in the glass” and I gave up already. Now you may think I’m a confusing person and I must admit that I’m confusing and it’s not easy to read me.
Hello. I think I saw your tweet about Jiemi Ardian (which I can't find it now), but there's the word "qualified" there. If that's indeed your post, may I know what qualified means here? Please ignore this message if it's not your post or you don't wish to reply. Thank you in advance
It was a joke, haha. One of his specialization is treating trauma, so he “prefers” treating people with trauma. If there’s a patient coming to him and they’re suffering from specific mental issues without any trauma, it’s likely that he would suggest the patient to get treated by another excellent psychiatrist. It’s not a mere personal preference actually, it’s his specialization.
He’s so popular, the queue is exceptionally long, I even need to wait for almost 2 months to meet him after the day I booked an appointment. So, it’s understandable if he “prefers” treating patients based on his specialization. Trauma can be “treated” by medicines, but it can’t be “cured” only by medicines. Trauma isn’t about forgetting the past, so the therapy is aimed to make the patient feel at ease whenever they talk about their past. It’s about detaching the emotions in your heart.
I’m curious, what are the qualifications to be your crush? Mind to share it? Just in case…
Someone with integrity. Someone with high critical thinking and knows how to conclude informations they acquire correctly or not explain their raw assumptions. Someone who won’t give me silent treatment when we’re getting into argument. Someone who has clear and rational life visions about what they want to achieve in the next year, 5 years, 10 years, and so on. Someone with the same emotional maturity. Someone who is not easily controlled by their emotions. Someone who won’t insinuate me in public when we’re in quarrel. Someone who knows priority scale so they don’t waste time, money, and energy for something that is less important thus making the actual top priority is overlooked. Someone who is aware and well-informed about current issues. Someone who doesn’t take advantage of my selflessness. Someone who can take my criticism rationally as well as I’m open to be criticized by them.
And what holds weight the most: someone who is kind not only to me and their closest ones, but also to people they meet on the streets because being kind to people who are kind to them already is not something I consider extraordinary.
I’m willing to bleed myself dry for them, you can ask my close friends how devoted I was to my past lovers/crushes, so why would I settle for less which, in the end, will only make me regret wasting my time with them? Breakup sucks, but making me have to deal with commitment issues after parting ways is a sin I won’t forgive until my very last breath, and even God won’t bless them His mercy before I, me, my own self, sincerely pardon them in afterlife.
Pft, I see. So you're this kind of person, eh? I had this thought before, that you seemed competitive. But I guess you're really that one of a kind, I didn't expect you to be like this even in things like this lol. It’s quite interesting tho.
By the way, ofc I didn't mention whether you're high maintenance or low maintenance. I just said that someone in a relationship usually prefers quality time, and quality time doesn't necessarily refer to the quantity of time spent with a partner. It's called 'quality' for a reason, right? I also mentioned the preference for quality time over working cause, obviously, you already work. And you surely work hard every day. Someone like you must have your own standards for what you do, not just doing things in a just-so-so way. So when you want to work more and harder, chances are you don't have much else to do. Ofc this is just one of many possibilities. I simply chose what, in my opinion, has a higher probability.
By the way again, I agree with your second point. Of course, an INTJ can be both soft and fierce. I think I've seen a glimpse of your softer side. I’m sorry for your breakup. Are you still struggling with whether 'what you did was right' or 'you went overboard'? I know you didn't ask for this, but, in my opinion, it's okay to set high standards as long as we also know our place. Self-reflection is still essential, right? There are plenty of people on this earth. It's impossible for anyone to meet all your desires 100%, but someone who doesn't care about their flaws while they can still be improved isn't a wise choice for someone you'll spend a long time with. After all, we're humans, not dough that will rise on its own if left alone.
I'll still consider it a compliment, even if it's just cum laude and not magna or summa cum laude. Cheer up, buddy. Your favorite woman just noticed your presence, right? There are still many things waiting for you ahead. No need to rush into giving up on relationships.
I’m too stunned to speak and reciprocate your response with the same length as yours. I’m… too overwhelmed due to the feeling that this is so heartwarming. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
To answer your question about the difficulty I’ve been dealing with, I’m still struggling to stop regretting the past I had with my ex because I was the one who started it all. I didn’t want to say all the form of “loving” I tried to convey were investment, but I couldn’t help myself from thinking as if it was, well, since our breakup felt like hundreds of hands punching my chest that it created a wide hole on it, I keep on thinking what I’d given to her was all worth-for-nothing. Yes, I’m very aware that I will fall in love again deeply and madly, which I did after that, but there’s something which is still not clear enough as to why I tend to do “push-and-pull” to the people who came after that “devastating moment”.
Heh. It ain’t a big deal, nevertheless. The moment I broke up with her, so many glorious things happened to my life. I got invited to participate in an event where a lot of elites gathered from Sabang to Merauke (I saw President Jokowi with my own eyes in formal occasion, although it wasn’t close enough due to the protocols), I passed the comprehensive test for my job as the best participant, I met great people who had light heart and taught me a lot about life, I read a lot of “heavy” books that I now am able to analyze implementations of some public policy as well as enhanced my knowledge and wisdom, and many more.
So, everything is still under my control right now. I somehow feel I can be my true self when I’m not with her because I’ve stopped suppressing my emotions. 😁
As a matter of fact, I thought I was not really a person who fancied words of affirmation, but apparently I just discovered recently that I need one that’s truly felt as if we’ve known each other for ages — one that when I read it, I know the person’s not giving empty and “template” reassurance. And I could vividly feel it as I finished reading this from you. Whoever you are, I hope the universe will always treat you with mercy and bless (doa anak yatim yang dijahatin mulu bakal dijabah, they said.)
Eyyy, 3 hours is too long when it doesn't make any difference whether my answer is right or wrong, but it's a good spirit to work harder, Sir. So my answer is, I think you are single. Someone who's in a relationship prefers quality time with their partner rather than working, working and working. Especially when you said you already have a lot of money. Also those who are in a relationships tend to be softer, while your personal posts are more fierce. So, am I right or am I right?
And what if I’m a low-maintenance partner in a relationship where I don’t find it energizing or boosting to be with my partner most of the time? And, uh, I’m an INTJ-A, thus I can be soft and can be fierce depending on the situarion. I criticized my exes a lot that led to our breakup last year and now I’m still struggling to reconstruct my mind that, after all, I still deserve to set higher standards other than finding someone who’s just honest and don’t care about their flaws.
Your analyzing skill to connect the dots by mixing the pattern of my posts and your assumptions is undeniably amazing, but still can’t see through me. 😈😈😈
Hello, may I know if you're currently in rls with someone or not?
Judging by my personal posts, do you think I’m currently in relationship? If your guess is right, I’ll work harder tomorrow, but if it’s wrong, I’ll still work harder. I’ll give you 3 hours to think of the best answer and come here again. 😈
I know this is kinda crazy to ask but what kinda job you’re doing that you earned that much in just a year? But it’s okay if you don’t wanna answer 🫣
A risky and confidential one where it may invite so many influential people to intervene.
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