That sucks. 😕

Don't listen to the nay-sayers, bro. I'm quite confident in your ability to successfully and quite homosexually bone down with ANY character of ANY gender in all of media. 😎

I sometimes wonder if I might be doing cis gay men some sort of "disservice" by having changed my personal terminology to "pan" instead of "gay" and "demimale" and "genderqueer" instead of "cis."

Why do I feel the need to change how I identify, simply because I'm also attracted to enbies and trans peeps? Why does being a little outside traditional gender norms mean I must stop calling myself "cis"? and WHY am I choosing to conform to the established societal notion that a man can't like more femme-aligned clothing or have a not-feminine-yet-not-strictly-masculine gender expression?

Shouldn't I be the example that boys don't HAVE to like guns and sports and roughhousing? Should I not take a stand against archaic patriarchal expectations of men everywhere? It's an interesting dilemma. 🤔

...or it would be, if I weren't now way too GODDAMN old to give a flying crap anymore. 😆 I found something about myself after several decades of being in this "C+ AT BEST" spinning wet rock that caused everything to click and make sense in a very surprising way and I couldn't be more intrigued and excited to continue exploring. I don't have room in my schedule to care about what will they think of me. That goes both for the right-wing bigots or for any "um, actually" gender nerds who might tell me "UR DOIN IT RONG." 😏 I'm sure the non-conforming cishets will find another worthy champion to fight society's gender hegemony. I'm too busy being gay for stuff.

I am that I am, for that which I am... is ME. 😁

And to come full circle, I think "gay" is not just a sexual preference. It is a much broader state of being. So, you wonderful nonbinary self can 100% be gay for anyone and anything. 😉

That's the thing about gay bitches like us. 😌 We, the Fae, transcend such petty mortal affairs as "gender" and "sexuality."