Anon · 9d
before everything sorry if this question is too personal !!! but you and kiwi are a real couple, right? and, judging by the way you interact here sometimes, it looks like you two have some kind of dom/sub dynamic and to me its really interesting to see it out of fanfiction and “close” (because i follow both of you for your Fantastic writings) to me and i always have this curiosity: how does it work? i think im a dom myself, but i dont know how to put it out and build a dynamic with my girlfriend, by example.. i do things during sex, but not all the things that i want because i dont think it looks serious ? i mean i have this fear that i will look like im acting come fanfic scene 😭😭😭
first and foremost, have a good, long talk about this with your gf if you haven't yet. both of you need to be very clear about what you want and set some rules and boundaries together. then just start small so you can ease into it and scale up when it works out. it can be as simple as telling someone to sit down and wait for you or holding their wrists down. the flogger and rope can wait<3
imo sex of all types and varieties can be awkward if you let it, so just. don't? nothing is embarrassing if you refuse to be embarrassed. part of being in control is accepting the trust placed in you and keeping it safe, which means you can't be distracted by doubting and second guessing yourself. embrace it, build confidence in yourself, and have fun!
