if you think i haven't considered it, then i'm not sure you're paying attention!! at present i've got... some ~150 stories tagged on the topic of self-sabotage in the recovery process. peep "self-abandonment" on the archives if you're sincerely interested in my thoughts. i've also pretty continuously made a public call to not accessorize these ideas in behavior that amounts to self-harm. it's a major creative/personal anxiety of mine!!

that said, as far as i'm concerned this sort of thing is underprescribed internally and overprescribed externally. it's very easy to look at someone struggling without the context of their experience and decide that their suffering is stubborn and deliberate, and it rarely accomplishes anything to confront someone with this impulse. shame is sort of treated as a universal solution, when more often than not it just sets people way back.

if you really want to help, you have to extend some sort of mutual understanding, and put your back into pulling them up. the average accusation of self-traumatization doesn't really stand up to this, in my experience.