Ahhhh something I forgot to mention with tagging! Some people who are new to tagging get worried that they’re spoiling the story. I used to worry like that, too, but over time I’ve realized that even five fics with the same tag will all express that tag differently. The way you handle a tag as an author can and will still give the full emotional effect, even if you technically ‘spoiled’ it. It may be a bit stuck up of me to say this, but trust your writing to carry the full effect of the event that tag describes to the reader, even if they know it’s coming. It will! I’ve had so many times where I knew an event was coming and when the event happened you would have thought it was untagged by my reaction, haha. Tbh as a writer that’s sometimes my favorite part of reading, is looking forward to the tagged item (even if it’s ‘bad’ haha) and freaking out when it gets there.
Casting around for examples and think of it like when your friend says they’re getting dressed up for an event! They might tell you “I’m gonna wear that gold dress with a black jacket” and you might know exactly what they’re talking about, but when you both arrive for the event the way it looks on them (fabulous) is still gonna merit compliments/admiration/gushing. If it’s something you’ve only seen them in a few times and you just /know/ they’ll look amazing, it also creates anticipation! So while tagging things that say a lot about the fic but might be a trigger, just remind yourself that for as many people as there are who will avoid it, there are plenty of weirdos like me (affectionate!) who will nod through the tags, read the summary, and go “oooooh yes. This sounds like a perfect evening” haha. You got this!