local anon · 26d
Hey Chiraa <33 I hope you're well <33 If you have time (and you don't mind me asking) could you pass on some questions you asked yourself when you decided to get off social media that you think might be helpful, or were the most interesting/ difficult to respond to?
I loved your recent post about it and resonated with me.
I am asking this on retrospring in case you decide to respond and someone else also finds it helpful besides me u v u
~sends kiss
I'm actually not sure if I can provide any deep questions for you, but I can at least tell you I'm constantly motivated to be self-reliant and self-dependent. The last thing I ever want to be is trapped, and I refuse to accept learned helplessness as a reality on principle. I want to be the one to define myself, not have the world or others define me. I firmly believe that, while I may not always have a choice in the circumstances I live through, I do have a choice in how cooperative I am to those circumstances.
So my relationship with SM fundamentally changed when I recognized the bigger forces at play and how much I was cooperating with it, which lead to the inevitable questions of 'why am I complying? what's stopping me from changing the game? what do I actually want for myself here?'
and since I'm a stubborn contrarian I just flipped the bird and decided to figure out how to swim against the tides.
And that I don't think there's anything more you can do other than go "no" and do something different until you figure out what works.
