thats very fair... i hate tagging because i hate to overpromise and undeliver - eg if you tag a fic non-con personally i want it to have an explicit non-con scene thats in focus. not just a mention that something happened off screen or allusions to it!! but thats also highly subjective and with something as delicate as this issue id rather plaster a fic with a "back off" label and only invite in the people that match my freak than risk accidently triggering people. big sigh etc