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Anonymous Coward · 4d
i notice a lot when i am trying to talk about certain things that have happened to me, i will often completely forget what i am talking about, what i said last and what im going to say next. it just slips away completely from me and i don't know what this is. it's really frustrating and i was wondering if you knew of any ways to manage this?
that's one of the questions that's asked on the MID assessment more or less so you're not alone in this experience. I experience this as well
personally you could start out with apologizing and being like "sorry for stepping on your toes there" @ your own brain. you could also be like "I trust that whatever part of my brain has this memory or feeling is keeping it from me to try and stay safe, and I respect that. could I look a little bit, or will that still be too much?"
acknowledging and being thankful and appreciative of your brain doing this for you as opposed to seeing it as opposition or something to be defeated will probably help. you could also approach it from the perspective of "hey I would like to look at this but I trust your judgement and needs if you truly feel I shouldn't look at this right now."
Anonymous Coward · 4d
is there anyway you could explain the whole “people without DID/OSDD consist of parts as well” thing? I think this completely describes myself. I have some form of dissociation but not DID or OSDD or alters, if that makes things clearer
Anonymous Coward · 5d
is it possible that i just have amnesia, cptsd, ptsd, dissociate, uncontrollable/conflicting/frequently changing emotional states and opinions, and frequently dissociate without having DID/OSDD? lol.
reason i ask is because i can never tell when if i switch, so obviously it must never happen /hj i cant tell if a switch is defined by just feeling different but is it not common to feel differently about things all the time???
if you meet the criteria you meet the criteria
knowing when you switch isn't a criteria either. it's pretty expected that you don't maintain perfect awareness of switching of self states. hell, people without dissociative disorders are not even always aware of their emotions, and given that dissociative people learn early on that their feelings are not safe to have and then proceed to spend several years building dissociative barriers to shut out those feelings in order to survive ...
sorry I kinda got carried away there.
depending on your age it can be extremely common to feel differently about things. no person alone is without complexity, contradiction, or cognitive dissonance. so I can't tell if how you specifically feel is 'common' or 'pathological'
that being said, let me define a switch in the way I understand it:
a change in your unique subjective perspective experience and relationship to the world, yourself, others, and your past
Anonymous Coward · 5d
Sorry to bother but can you have an internal subsystem as an OSDD system? I'm sure I have one but I'm not sure about labels like that . Because of woke (joking). Hope you have a splendid halloween thank u x 👻
given that people without DID/OSDD consist of parts as well, I don't know why an alter/self state within someone with those disorders would somehow be expected to be a whole complete discrete piece
that being said OSDD is not a "thing" that is about whether you can or cannot experience XYZ. it's just a word we use for describing very roughly where along the spectrum of dissociative experiences someone is at
so like my answer is "why would it not be possible for an alter to have different parts of themselves when we expect that of non systems" and also (and this is very important) you have what you have. you experience what you experience. "having" or "not having" DID/OSDD does not mean your experiences are real/less real
Anonymous Coward · 7d
tw: self harm, shtwt
i just accidentally came across the worst self harm video ive ever seen by complete accident (that shit was not tagged). but even though i totally understand sh as an outlet, shouldnt i be reporting it?? if they get suspended, wont that make the situation worse for them...??? i feel stupid for even asking because while i understand self harm is pretty nuanced, i also think what the fck i just saw is totally in violation of twitter, but i dont want them to go off the deep end bc their twitter account got deleted. idk i feel dumb for asking but i just cant seem to report in good conscience even though it is literally So Bad. ive never come across somethng like this before (thankfully) so i guess idk what to do. sorry this isnt really system related, i dont really know anyone who i can ask that has an understanding view on self harm
first and foremost if reporting it would require for you to go back and view the video in any way I think that it should probably be left well enough alone. maybe play some Tetris because some studies have shown weirdly the eye movement is actually pretty good for people who just experienced a trauma.
second... I don't actually have a super coherent position on the subject. I don't think that everyone who self harms should have their posts reported, but I don't know if I would say that reporting every post is also a good idea.
I think if I saw something like that, I would probably report it. it's not your responsibility to prevent someone from 'going off the deep end,' especially if what they are currently doing is getting encouragement by strangers to harm themselves more.
in all likelihood, the person would probably just make another twitter account. i don't think that their account being suspended will be the straw that breaks the camels back
Anonymous Coward · 7d
Dunno if you have any input on this but, for the past year I’ve been more open about my OSDD with my buddies. Recently another friend from the same group opened up about it and we ended up answering a ton of questions from others + bonding a bit over our childhood trauma. Issue is, we now have like 5 people from the same group who have suddenly declared that they have DID based off of myself and my bud’s experiences. We’ve both been like “hey, our trauma is our own, you can’t claim you have this debilitating mental illness based off of our experiences alone” but they seem to be…sensationalizing and romanticizing it regardless. I know you’re not The God Emperor of traumagenic dissociative disorders but like, how do we approach this delicately? Or is this a “let people do what they want” situation?
personally I think in situations like this you either need to make your peace with it happening by just ignoring it or not addressing it, or determining whether or not you are comfortable continuing to be friends with them
you don't even need to fakeclaim them or make any statements about what they believe they are going through. your experiences just may not be compatible and for whatever reasons you/they have changed in ways that make the friendship difficult. that's a thing that happens in relationships sometimes.
if you don't feel respected in a friendship you're allowed to just sort of taper off hanging out with them as much
Anonymous Coward · 14d
possibly too personal but i have ocd, and combined with my poor memory, i constantly feel like i dont have enough trauma to have osdd and that because of it i must be faking it, did you ever experience this? how did you go about it if you did? any advice?
i have OCD and my solution has just to been to be like "what does that have to do with anything? i experience what i experience and I also have a disorder that makes me disconnected from my trauma so of course it feels less impactful to me and harder to remember" and then call it a day
Anonymous Coward · 13d
Is it not normal for people to know who's fronting most of the time? I mean that's not to say we always know but is this not a normal thing to be aware of? /genq
Anonymous Coward · 14d
how do you figure out who's fronting?
Anonymous Coward · 27d
so i think our barriers have gotten worse like. to the point it feels like a physical memory blockage when trying to define me and who is not me / front. is there a way to help this because it's distressing being basically unaware of my own identity and what my own name even is 90% of the time? also another question related but is this like something common?? like is this something that can be explained past just inability ?? like is there cases of alters just deciding to force u to not know who u even r at times like how some block off memories ? like i just feel really clueless here
first, I would like to say that having identity confusion in the identity confusion disorder is pretty common lol
I don't know if this will help you but in all honesty I think that the majority of my problems early on was constantly trying to interrogate and 'figure out' who I am.
it's more important to get into the habit of noticing "what" you're feeling rather than "who" you are.
Anonymous Coward · 30d
is the implication of the last post that if you have an alter that is not the agab then you are trans? /gen
Anonymous Coward · 1mo
counterpoint all people with DID are trans actually.
Anonymous Coward · 1mo
from "what it's like when someone else fronts" i would not expect you to answer for others, but if you can, either is fine. both about yourself and a more general answer can be enlightening
for me personally I think I've described it before like....
you normally play a certain character on a show. you have been on this show for 27 years.
one day, someone mistypes the script and they put your characters name at the top of a script for another character.
you may or may not know immediately that this not the character you usually play. maybe they're not that different from yours. maybe they're immediately obvious not the character you play.
regardless, you have a different script. the character that you're playing has entirely different motivations, what's of speaking, character flaws, and skills. but you also only have this script after the mix up happened, and you have to act from it anyways. suddenly, all the things you'd usually say or be motivated by or deliver as a character are all different. but you still only have the one script, with the different instructions.
so you act that way because that's what you have instructions for.
translated to less of a metaphor in general for me or usually just doesn't feel like much or anything. it's like asking me what it's like to be MS paint while I'm playing a video game. maybe MS paint is minimized in the background and not taking up much resources. maybe it's totally closed out. but in that case it's not 'like' anything. that code and information and interface just isn't present or active at the moment. your computer has stored the program away until you decide to use it again.
idk does that make sense?