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do you have any tips for coping with the fact that i’ll be like this (referring to OSDD) forever. kinda dark question i know but i feel so hopeless knowing ill be fractured and dissociated for the rest of my life and ill never get my childhood memories back. i know therapy can help but it’s not like i get a do-over.
no one is ever like anything forever- there's not a single static person on this earth.
i think a lot of this is easier to grasp in hindsight obviously but I want to point out here that you don't know that you'll be fractured and dissociated for the rest of your life. you feel like it. and what you feel is important! it's important to acknowledge that. but you can't properly acknowledge it until you recognize that you can't know the future, and that "knowing" these things doesn't make room for you to be able to process.
trauma wires us to equate survival with permanence ("this pain will never end,") but life is motion. rivers change course. seasons turn. so do people.
when you say, "i’ll be fractured forever," you’re borrowing a script from pain, not truth. trauma loves to collapse time and say: "This is how it’s always been, so this is how it’ll always be," but that’s a survival reflex. not a crystal ball.
I think it might help to ask yourself the following questions:
the mind you have today isn’t the mind you’ll have in 5 years. New tools, relationships, and insights can (and will! shift how OSDD impacts you over time
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