asking, 'do you usually vaguepost?' comes off as pretty passive-aggressive, and i don’t really accept that as a valid form of communication. if i’m misinterpreting your intent, i’m absolutely open to you clarifying!

that said, i want to address this directly: if you’re open to the possibility that my behavior/motivations might be different from what you’re ascribing to me (which seems to be that I am intentionally being rude and hurtful) i’d be happy to have a conversation about this. but framing your question in a way that assumes the only explanation is that i’m 'doing a bad thing'—like vagueposting feels unfair and makes it hard for me to engage meaningfully.

i’m not a Question Answering Machine, and i think it’s okay for me to express my thoughts and feelings about the questions i get. sometimes, commenting on the nature of a question itself can actually be helpful - it’s a way to encourage reflection or even more specific follow-ups from the asker. i try to approach that respectfully as I can, and not hatefully when it's not warranted.

when questions come from anonymous sources, discussing them publicly is often the best way to engage with them. it lets everyone, including the asker, reflect on how they frame their questions and see my thought process. i know the asker might see my response, so it doesn't make much sense to me to be openly hostile towards someone who's trying to figure something out.